Don’t You Swallow that Pride!

Posted: May 24, 2011 in Uncategorized

What’s the last thing you did that you’re proud of?  Speak up for something you hold dear? Hold down a conversation with someone you don’t particularly care for? Skip that dessert that was calling your name?
I’d bet dollars to nickels that half of you tried to downplay or ignore that question.  Many people seem to think that pride in oneself is a bad, bad thing. Even more think that to give yourself credit, as opposed to someone else seems selfish. Neither is true.  If you don’t blow your own horn, no one else will do it for you.
You gotta give yourself credit where credit is due.  Is it something you’d congratulate a friend over?  Then give yourself credit for it and congratulate yourself.  Accept a compliment with a smile.  Give yourself the full blessing to say “that was my idea” or “I did it!”
It’ll feel odd the first several (hundred) times.  I can tell you that from personal experience.  It’s part of that whole self- love thing I keep harping on, and self love is generally percieved as unnecessary or downright evil in the modern society. All the same, it is a necessary beauty.  If you cannot give yourself credit, you will become a doormat to the world.  Not just the people in the world, but a doormat to every whim, urge, and backlash.  If you don’t give yourself credit, no one will give it to you.
Remember when you were little and Mom (Dad, Gramma, whoever) said “keep making that face and it’ll stick?”  Same thing goes with denying yourself credit and denying yourself love.  If you never tell yourself that you are worthy, that you do deserve congratulations, that you did earn whatever it was, eventually, you will believe that you are unworthy, never worth recognition, and can’t do anything.  That ain’t true.  ANYONE and EVERYONE has something to be proud of.  Point blank.  End of story.  That includes you. Yes, you.  No, don’t go looking behind you for the “you” I’m talking to.  I mean the person reading this post right now with your eyes.

So, give yourself some credit.  If you take it overboard and become an Arrogant Bitch or Arrogant Badass, at least that’s better than being a Pansy Wimp.

  1. Jen says:

    This is why when my toddler does something awesome, I don’t just say “Good job, I’m proud of you!” Because although it’s nice when Mommy is glad about it, the goal should not just be to please Mommy. So instead I say, “That’s great, you must be happy you could do X” or “You did X! That makes things easier / more fun, doesn’t it? Are you happy?”

    I suppose it’s an advanced distinction for a two-year-old to make, but it will sink in sooner or later.

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